When you are in your doctor’s office, and your doctor is writing notes, your doctor may be thinking about all kinds of things.
Your doctor may be thinking about your treatment and your health and the medical tests and the prescriptions and other patients and maybe what’s for lunch and how cute the nurse is.
Your doctor may not be thinking about your disability case.
That is OK. Your doctor doesn’t have to be thinking about your disability case… because you will be!
Here’s a whole bunch or ways to have great doctor visits that will help your records be accurate.
You do not have to be perfect! Don’t try to do every single thing on this list every time (you will die). Please just read through this list and see if there are a few things that it might help you to think about or keep in mind while visiting your doc.
🌷 Be Honest With Your Doc
It is important to be honest with your doctor about your symptoms. It is important not to lie or exaggerate your symptoms… and it is equally important not to understate or hide your symptoms! As Mark Twain says, “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”
🌷 Be Embarrassing
It’s not easy to tell your doctor embarrassing things. If you need help to walk, eat, bathe or go to the bathroom, it’s really important to share this with your doctor. It’s hard to say at first, but we promise, it does get easier in time
🌷 Be Guilt-Free
Some people feel guilty always showing up with bad news at their doctor’s office. They want to be nice to their doctor and tell their doctor how much the treatments are helping. Please tell your doctor the truth. Don’t say something that is not true just to be polite.
🌷 Be Repetitive
Try to discuss your limitations and severe symptoms every time you see your doctor. Don’t worry if you have said it already a million times. Say it a million and one.
🌷 Be On Topic
Some disability lawyers recommend staying on topic while at the doctors, and talking about your health problems and your symptoms. Learn more about statements that cause problems in medical records. Many readers here report that they never chat about their personal lives with their doctors. If you do discuss any activities, it is a good idea to let your doctor know if you have any limitations or get any assistance.
🌷 Use the Magic Words
If you are unsure how to answer a question, many disability lawyers recommend to try using the magic words. The magic words are “When I am having severe symptoms….” Roselyn used the magic words when applying for paratransit: How Roselyn Used the Magic Words
🌷 Be Yourself
Act the way you act on a typical day. Dress the way you dress on a typical day. Talk the way you talk on a typical day. Let the doctor see what you are actually like. Here’s a great article written by someone with CFS/ME and Lyme. Don’t Try to Look Good When You Feel Like Crap
🌷 One Good Day is One Good Day
If you are having a good day, that is great! But before you go to your doctor and say “I’m feeling better” make sure you really are feeling better and your condition really has improved. Don’t say it just because you had one good day or one good week.
🌷 Be Realistic
It’s great to practice positive thinking. It’s a great to visualize yourself healthy again, and to believe that that is happening. But don’t do that visualization in the doctor’s office. Tell your doctor what is actually true, not what you wish were true.
🌷 Be Out of the Box
Some people were raised to believe that it is better never to complain. It is better to “grin and bear it” and remember other people have it worse. If you are applying for disability, please try your best to talk openly about your struggles. You may need to step way outside of your comfort zone, and be very strong and courageous to make this change
🌷 Be Honest with Yourself
If you are too ill to work, one of the most important things you can do to help your case is get comfortable acknowledging to yourself that you are now disabled. Being able to acknowledge this within yourself may change the way you talk and write about yourself with your doctors and with Social Security.
🌷 Be Informed
Many people have no idea the kinds of things doctor’s write in their notes. Please do not read your records online, and do not read visit summaries. You will need to request and collect full treatment notes to understand what your doctor is writing about. It may surprise you! What is My Doctor Writing About Me?
🌷 Don’t Hide Your Physical Struggles
When possible, try to talk with your doctor about any difficulties you have with caring for yourself or any help you need. You can talk with your doctor about limitations you have with sitting, standing, walking, lifting, grasping, bending, thinking, focusing, concentrating or remembering. If side effects from medications make it difficult to function, this is a good thing to talk about as well. Social Security will be looking in your records to see if you have discussed this with your doctor and what your doctor has written about it.
🌷 Don’t Hide Your Mental Health Struggles
Some people try to put on a good face and hide what they are really feeling. Someone may be able to push themselves to act “normal” for ten minutes in the doctor’s office, but then go home and cry the rest of the day. If you are having mental health struggles, please don’t hide this from your doctor. Here’s how Acacia Got Approved because of mental health symptoms her doctors observed. She wanted to share her story to help others.
🌷 Don’t Be Perfect!
You do not have to do everything on this page every visit. That would be impossible! This list is mostly about being honest about your symptoms, and keeping your disability in mind while you visit your doctor. You do not need to have perfect visits. Just try your best to be honest with your doc (and with yourself).
🌷 Updated Oct 2017. Please share questions, stories, ideas below. Please let us know if any links on this page are not working properly.